Friday, May 19, 2006

Raise a Glass

Today in history... 10 years ago today, I slipped behind the wheel of the UHaul and began my third trip to California, my second in three months. Graduation 90 minutes earlier and the hot, wet gowns finally off. It had rained while we all stood outside waiting to process, but now it was clear and dry and the sky blue. This would be the longest trip. Not just the drive down, which took an entire extra day due to the truck never exceeding 60 miles an hour even as the spedometer read 90. But, the trip would ultimately last just shy of 10 years. I'd leave for California all my possessions in a tiny UHaul, my future ex-girlfriend behind the wheel of my Audi. (I was thinking about this today... not only did she drive my car all the way down, including backtracking to find me when I ran the diesel truck out of gas - never do that! - but she actually also helped me unload the truck into my apartment. That was above and beyond.)

The return trip was slightly quicker, though much more of a production. This time, I had my car and four cats, my wife in her truck with the baby and the horse-dog and my mother-in-law with her cat in yet a third car. All of our stuff now taking up a considerable portion of a gigantic North American Van Lines truck heading up on its own schedule.

But what happened in that almost 10 years will be much of my memories for a long time to come. A party that ended at a Denny's long after the beer was gone, a church that met at a Dave and Busters, friends who stuck by in stupid times, a life ended too soon, palm trees and crisp, hot dry air, an apartment that should have been condemned, a house that should have been condemned, thankfully failed dating relationships, an internet start-up, a major movie studio, a video chain, a large non-profit that has no right to be that large, a sadistic cop. A comedy club, a little TV show and a million fans, data entry at a worker's comp. processing facility, websites for an audio/video company, a youth runaway shelter and a Christian research firm. Ventura, Sepulveda and Van Nuys Blvds. Encino, Van Nuys, Sherman Oaks, Burbank, Studio City, Pasadena, Arcadia, Anaheim, Monrovia, LOS ANGELES. 5, 405, 101, 134. Dating, proposal at Disneyland, wedding, joy. Doctor's visits, late night race to the hospital at full speed down a thankfully empty freeway secretly hoping to get pulled over and a police escort the rest of the way, beautiful bundle of warmth in my arms 9 hours later. Stress, traffic, smog, torrential rain, expensive.

What a ride it's been. To the 10-year anniversary of graduation. Salut and thanks.

4 comments:

Unknown said...

which means i've known you for 8 of those years.

congratulations on a decade of life lived fully.

Unknown said...

Which means I've known you for 14 years. Ponder that, if you dare.

When we met, you listened to Rush Limbaugh religiously. You swore you'd never drink alcohol. You worked for ASPLU.

I'm not sure if you ever knew the story of how you were asked to live in the "media house." I did all the paperwork and met with all the housing people, Jon and Wayne went along for the ride. The original fourth housemate was supposed to be Keith, the moron who kept breaking all the equipment at KCNS. Anyway, there was a final meeting scheduled between us and that raspy voiced guy in charge of housing at the time (Tom Huelsebeck, I think was his name), but the night before the meeting Keith dropped off the face of the earth. There were rumors he'd been arrested, or expelled, but we couldn't confirm his whereabouts. It was crunch time when I (yes, I'm to blame) suggested your name. When Wayne and Jon asked why, I said two true things. First, I said, at first glance you were a responsible, hard working student, which would please the folks at campus housing. Second, I said, we could spend the year corrupting you, which seemed to be a deal breaker for Jon and Wayne.

Well, you know how the story ends... with you eating Cherrios out of a frying pan.

We roomed together for three years, and you put up with more of my crap than any other person I know (in August I'll have rommed with Brian for three years, at which point you and he will be tied). I'm not sure if we ever got around to corrupting you, but I think you stopped listening to Rush, so we'll call that a draw.

Anyway, you're a dear friend (which I don't say enough) and I do plan on coming up this summer and visiting (maybe 4th of July weekend, schedules and cheap airfare permitting).

You and I need to walk the campus together and have a good long talk about what has gone right and what has gone wrong in our lives in the last 10 years. Sure, I'll visit with your wife and play with your kid, but we need some male bonding time, like the good ol' days (sigh... we're old enough to have "good ol' days"). Maybe drag Jon and Robin along, and try to locate the elusive Paul "Todd Ireland" Edwards. We will speak as men do, but try to get you married men home to your wives at a decent hour. And if we're very lucky, we'll happen upon Joe and beat the living crap out of him.

Madame Marceau said...

which means i've known you for 8 of those years.

congratulations on a decade of life lived fully.

KEVIN МАРУСЕК said...

Which means I've known you for 14 years. Ponder that, if you dare.

When we met, you listened to Rush Limbaugh religiously. You swore you'd never drink alcohol. You worked for ASPLU.

I'm not sure if you ever knew the story of how you were asked to live in the "media house." I did all the paperwork and met with all the housing people, Jon and Wayne went along for the ride. The original fourth housemate was supposed to be Keith, the moron who kept breaking all the equipment at KCNS. Anyway, there was a final meeting scheduled between us and that raspy voiced guy in charge of housing at the time (Tom Huelsebeck, I think was his name), but the night before the meeting Keith dropped off the face of the earth. There were rumors he'd been arrested, or expelled, but we couldn't confirm his whereabouts. It was crunch time when I (yes, I'm to blame) suggested your name. When Wayne and Jon asked why, I said two true things. First, I said, at first glance you were a responsible, hard working student, which would please the folks at campus housing. Second, I said, we could spend the year corrupting you, which seemed to be a deal breaker for Jon and Wayne.

Well, you know how the story ends... with you eating Cherrios out of a frying pan.

We roomed together for three years, and you put up with more of my crap than any other person I know (in August I'll have rommed with Brian for three years, at which point you and he will be tied). I'm not sure if we ever got around to corrupting you, but I think you stopped listening to Rush, so we'll call that a draw.

Anyway, you're a dear friend (which I don't say enough) and I do plan on coming up this summer and visiting (maybe 4th of July weekend, schedules and cheap airfare permitting).

You and I need to walk the campus together and have a good long talk about what has gone right and what has gone wrong in our lives in the last 10 years. Sure, I'll visit with your wife and play with your kid, but we need some male bonding time, like the good ol' days (sigh... we're old enough to have "good ol' days"). Maybe drag Jon and Robin along, and try to locate the elusive Paul "Todd Ireland" Edwards. We will speak as men do, but try to get you married men home to your wives at a decent hour. And if we're very lucky, we'll happen upon Joe and beat the living crap out of him.